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Building Strong Youth Through Sports: Insights from Dr. Dan Gould

At El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu, our youth program is about more than just learning techniques and building physical fitness—it’s about creating confident, resilient, and well-rounded individuals. Recently, we’ve been reflecting on the work of Dr. Dan Gould, director of the Michigan State University Center for Youth Sports. Dr. Gould’s research offers invaluable insights into how coaches, parents, and programs like ours can positively influence young athletes.

The Role of Youth Sports in Life Skills Development

Dr. Gould emphasizes that youth sports should be a vehicle for teaching critical life skills like discipline, teamwork, leadership, and emotional resilience. At El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu, we see these skills come alive on the mats every day. Whether a young student is learning to persevere after a tough round of sparring or practicing respect through bowing to a training partner, these lessons transcend the sport itself.

As Dr. Gould highlights, sports don’t automatically teach life skills—they must be intentionally woven into training. This is why we hold monthly Mat Chats in our youth program, focusing on values like integrity, humility, safety, and bravery. By combining Jiu Jitsu with meaningful life discussions, we help students make connections between their practice and their daily lives.

Creating a Positive Youth Sports Environment

Dr. Gould’s research stresses the importance of a positive sports environment—one that balances competitiveness with encouragement and learning. For us, this means fostering a culture where mistakes are seen as opportunities to grow. A child may not always hit the perfect technique, but through patient coaching and reinforcement, they’ll learn to embrace challenges rather than fear failure.

We also encourage parents to focus on effort and progress over winning or losing. As Dr. Gould points out, parents and coaches who highlight a child’s personal improvement rather than external results are more likely to keep kids motivated, confident, and happy.

Avoiding Burnout and Keeping Sports Fun

One of Dr. Gould’s most important messages is that sports should be fun, especially for younger athletes. Overemphasizing competition can lead to burnout and cause kids to drop out of sports altogether. At El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu, we ensure that fun remains a priority—whether it’s through games to teach new techniques, friendly in-house competitions like Ruckus in the Hills, or celebrating milestones in class.

By keeping Jiu Jitsu engaging and rewarding, we help kids develop a lifelong love for movement, fitness, and personal growth.

The Long-Term Impact of Jiu Jitsu for Youth

Dr. Gould’s findings remind us that the true value of youth sports lies in the long-term impact on a child’s character and mindset. At El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu, we’re proud to contribute to this journey. Every young student who steps on the mat learns to be a little braver, a little more focused, and a little more resilient—skills they’ll carry with them long after they leave the gym.

We’re inspired by Dr. Gould’s vision of youth sports as a transformative experience, and we remain committed to providing the best possible environment for young athletes in our community.

If you’re a parent looking for a program where your child can build physical skills and grow as a person, come visit us at El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu. Let’s help your child reach their full potential—on and off the mat.

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Discipline as a Skill: Unlocking Your Potential

At El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu, we believe that discipline is not just a personality trait—it’s a skill that anyone can develop and refine. Whether you’re stepping onto the mat for the first time or training for a world-class competition, discipline is the key to unlocking your potential in Jiu Jitsu and beyond.

But what exactly is discipline, and how can we cultivate it in our training and daily lives?

What Is Discipline?

Discipline is the ability to stay committed to your goals, even when the journey gets tough. It’s choosing consistent effort over fleeting motivation and prioritizing long-term growth over immediate comfort.

In Jiu Jitsu, discipline means showing up to class even when you’re tired, drilling techniques repetitively to perfect them, and keeping your emotions in check during a match. Off the mat, it can mean maintaining a healthy lifestyle, setting clear goals, and consistently working toward them.

How to Practice Discipline

The good news is that discipline isn’t something you either have or don’t have—it’s a skill you can build with intentional practice. Here are a few ways to develop discipline both on and off the mat:

    1. Start Small

    Discipline begins with small, manageable habits. For example, commit to attending one additional class per week or set aside 10 minutes a day to review techniques. As you succeed in these smaller goals, you’ll build the confidence and momentum to tackle bigger challenges.

    2. Embrace Consistency

    Consistency is the foundation of discipline. It’s better to train regularly, even if it’s just a few times a week, than to overtrain sporadically. Consistency helps you establish routines that make discipline feel natural rather than forced.

    3. Focus on the Process

    Discipline is about falling in love with the journey, not just the outcome. Celebrate the small victories, like mastering a new guard pass or maintaining focus during a challenging roll.

    4. Practice Self-Control

    Discipline requires controlling impulses. On the mat, this might mean resisting the urge to muscle through a technique and instead focusing on precision. Off the mat, it could mean choosing meal prep over fast food or study time over Netflix.

    5. Learn from Setbacks

    Setbacks are inevitable, but disciplined individuals use them as opportunities to grow. Missed a class? Reflect on why and recommit. Lost a match? Analyze what went wrong and come back stronger.

    Why Discipline Matters in Jiu Jitsu

    Discipline isn’t just about improving your skills in Jiu Jitsu; it’s about becoming a better version of yourself. Here’s why it matters:

    • Resilience: Discipline helps you push through tough times and bounce back from failure.

    • Focus: It sharpens your ability to stay present and intentional in your training.

    • Growth: Discipline ensures steady, incremental improvement over time.

    • Leadership: As you develop discipline, you inspire those around you to do the same.

    A Lifelong Skill

    The beauty of discipline is that it transcends Jiu Jitsu. The habits you build on the mat—showing up, working hard, and staying consistent—will serve you in every area of life.

    So the next time you tie your belt, remember: every class, every drill, and every roll is an opportunity to practice discipline. It’s not about being perfect; it’s about showing up and doing the work.

    At El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu, we’re here to help you develop the discipline to succeed—not just in Jiu Jitsu, but in everything you set out to achieve.

    Ready to Start?

    Join us on the mat and begin your journey toward greater discipline and self-mastery. Your future self will thank you.

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    The Value of Martial Arts: More Than Just Self-Defense

    At El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu, we know that martial arts is much more than learning how to defend yourself. It’s a journey of personal transformation, offering benefits that extend far beyond the mats. Whether you’re a child, teenager, or adult, practicing martial arts cultivates valuable life skills that can improve every area of your life.

    Discipline and Consistency

    In martial arts, success isn’t achieved overnight. Progress comes from showing up consistently, embracing challenges, and putting in the effort over time. This teaches discipline, a skill that applies everywhere—whether it’s school, work, or personal goals.

    Our structured curriculum, especially for white belts, emphasizes this approach. By mastering 12 positions and over 350 movements step-by-step, students learn the importance of focus and persistence, setting the stage for lifelong growth.

    Confidence Through Achievement

    Few things build confidence like overcoming obstacles. Every new technique mastered, every successful roll in sparring, and every stripe earned represents hard work and progress. This sense of accomplishment carries over into other areas of life, reminding students they can tackle challenges with resilience.

    Physical Fitness and Health

    Martial arts is a full-body workout that enhances strength, endurance, flexibility, and balance. It’s a way to stay active while having fun, making it easier to stick to a fitness routine. For many adults, especially those starting in their 30s, 40s, or even 50s, it’s a path to reclaiming physical health and vitality.

    Community and Camaraderie

    One of the most overlooked values of martial arts is the community it creates. At El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu, we’ve built a supportive environment where teammates cheer each other on, celebrate victories, and help each other grow. See for yourself from the 6 a.m. adult classes to our thriving youth program.

    Life Skills for Kids and Teens

    For our younger students, martial arts offers life lessons that go beyond the mat. Monthly “mat chats” in our youth program teach essential skills like integrity, humility, safety, and bravery. These conversations help kids develop strong character and become better equipped to navigate life’s challenges.

    A Lifelong Practice

    Unlike many sports, martial arts is a lifelong journey. There’s always something new to learn, refine, or master, no matter your age or experience level. It’s a practice that evolves with you, offering continuous opportunities for growth.

    Join the Journey

    Whether you’re looking to build confidence, improve your fitness, or find a supportive community, martial arts has something for everyone. At El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu, we’re passionate about helping our students unlock the full value of training.

    Ready to start your journey? Visit us for a class and discover the transformative power of martial arts. Your future self will thank you!

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    The New Competition: Insights for Jiu Jitsu from Start with Why

    In Simon Sinek’s Start with Why, Sinek explores how businesses and organizations thrive by focusing on their purpose rather than getting caught in endless battles for market share. At El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu, these ideas resonate deeply with how we approach training, competition, and community.

    Competing Against Yourself

    Sinek emphasizes that true success doesn’t come from beating others—it comes from staying true to your “why.” In Jiu Jitsu, this aligns with the idea of personal growth over external validation. While competition is a valuable tool for testing skills, the real opponent is often yourself:

    • Improving consistency: Did you show up on the tough days?

    • Measuring progress: Are you better than you were last month?

    • Focusing on fundamentals: Have you deepened your understanding of key techniques?

    At El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu, we encourage our students to embrace these questions, ensuring that their journey on the mats is driven by internal motivation rather than external comparisons.

    Infinite vs. Finite Games

    Sinek contrasts finite games (with set rules and winners) with infinite games (focused on continued growth and contribution). Jiu Jitsu is both. While tournaments are finite, the art itself is infinite—there’s always something new to learn, refine, or teach.

    Our gym embodies this infinite mindset. Whether you’re a white belt mastering escapes or a black belt honing subtle details, the path never ends. It’s about engaging with the process, not just chasing medals.

    Inspiring Through Purpose

    Organizations that succeed inspire people by sharing their “why.” For us, our “why” goes beyond teaching techniques—it’s about building confidence, resilience, and a supportive community. This purpose drives everything we do, from kids’ classes teaching life skills like bravery and humility to adult classes that foster camaraderie and personal growth.

    Applying These Lessons

    Here’s how you can bring the lessons to your Jiu Jitsu journey:

    1. Define your “why”: Why did you start training? Why do you keep showing up? Keep this purpose front and center.

    2. Focus on improvement: Compete with the person you were yesterday, not the person across the mat.

    3. Celebrate the journey: Remember, the medals and belts are milestones, not destinations.

    At El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu, we aim to create an environment where everyone is inspired to keep growing—on and off the mats. Whether you’re preparing for your first competition or simply looking to improve your fitness and mindset, let your “why” guide the way.

    Want to explore this mindset for yourself? Join us on the mats and discover how Jiu Jitsu can align with your purpose.

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    Building Bravery on the Mat: November’s Youth ‘Mat Chat’ at El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu

    In November, our youth program at El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu will focus on a life skill that applies both on and off the mat: bravery. Through our monthly ‘mat chat,’ we aim to help our young students understand that bravery isn’t just about big, heroic actions—it’s also about showing courage in everyday situations, standing up for what’s right, and pushing through challenges.

    What Is Bravery?

    We’ll start by discussing what bravery looks like in different forms. For some, it might mean facing their fears, like trying a challenging new move in Jiu Jitsu. For others, it could mean speaking up in a tough situation or supporting a friend who’s going through a hard time. We want our students to recognize that bravery doesn’t mean being fearless; it means acting despite the fear.

    Bravery on the Mat

    In Jiu Jitsu, bravery often shows up as perseverance. For our younger students, bravery might mean stepping onto the mat to spar, trying a new technique, or challenging themselves against a stronger opponent. We encourage them to face these challenges with an open mind, reminding them that the true measure of bravery isn’t whether they win or lose, but that they show up and try their best.

    How Can Bravery Shape Our Lives?

    Our goal is to help students see that bravery is a skill they can carry beyond the dojo. By encouraging our students to face their fears and persevere through challenges, they’ll develop resilience that can support them in school, friendships, and all areas of life. We’ll also talk about how brave people are often leaders—not because they’re the loudest, but because they’re willing to do what’s right, even when it’s difficult.

    Helping Our Youth Understand Their Own Bravery

    Each child experiences bravery in their own way, and we want to create an environment where they feel safe to share. We’ll invite our students to talk about times when they’ve been brave, whether it’s in class or elsewhere. By sharing, they’ll see that bravery is something they can build on every day, no matter how small the steps may seem.

    Closing Out with Encouragement

    Throughout the month, our instructors will recognize moments of bravery in class, from a student attempting a challenging technique to someone helping a teammate who’s feeling discouraged. By highlighting these moments, we hope our students leave November with a stronger sense of how bravery can positively impact their lives and those around them.

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    The Founding Purpose of El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu: Building Strong Individuals and a Stronger Community

    El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu was founded on a simple yet powerful vision: to create an environment where individuals of all ages can cultivate resilience, discipline, and community through the art of Jiu Jitsu. As a martial art that demands dedication, technique, and respect, Jiu Jitsu serves as both a physical and mental discipline. At our gym, we believe that this journey, whether pursued competitively or as a lifelong practice, shapes individuals into stronger, more compassionate, and more self-aware people.

    The Heart of Our Mission: Character Development

    Our mission goes beyond just building champions on the mat. We are committed to building character. Each class, each drill, and each moment of sparring is an opportunity for growth, both technically and personally. For kids, we emphasize the development of life skills such as integrity, respect, humility, and safety. Our monthly “mat chats” for the youth program focus on these skills, embedding them in a way that’s accessible and relevant to young minds. For adults, we emphasize the concept of kaizen—continuous improvement. We believe that every individual, regardless of age or background, can make steady progress, learning something new with every step.

    A Place for All: Diversity and Inclusion in Jiu Jitsu

    Our belief is that Jiu Jitsu should be for everyone, and we are proud to offer classes and programs for people of all ages and backgrounds. Many of our members come from El Dorado Hills and surrounding areas to train in our early morning classes, after-work sessions, and dedicated weekend training camps. We’ve seen that Jiu Jitsu has a unique way of uniting people, creating friendships and bonds among individuals who might not have met otherwise. This shared experience on the mat fosters understanding, mutual respect, and camaraderie that lasts a lifetime.

    Giving Back: Supporting the Community Through Scholarships and Events

    We are committed to ensuring that Jiu Jitsu remains accessible to as many as possible. Through the Guardian El Dorado Hills program, we offer scholarships to teens who wish to train but might not otherwise have the opportunity. Additionally, we host in-house events like “Ruckus in the Hills,” which bring the community together, celebrate the spirit of competition, and raise funds to expand our scholarship offerings.

    Looking Forward: A Vision of Growth and Positivity

    As we continue to grow, our purpose remains steadfast. El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu will always be a place where you can challenge yourself, where you can connect with others, and where you can grow in every area of life. Each day, we work to fulfill this mission and to ensure that our members not only become skilled practitioners but also embody the values and respect inherent in martial arts.

    Thank you for being a part of this journey with us. We look forward to many more years of training, learning, and growing together. Whether you’re a seasoned athlete or just starting out, we’re here to help you become the best version of yourself.

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    How the Positive Coaching Alliance Philosophy Enriches Training at El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu

    At El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu, we believe in a holistic approach to martial arts that goes beyond just technique. We strive to foster personal growth, resilience, and camaraderie in every student. This commitment aligns well with the Positive Coaching Alliance (PCA) philosophy, which emphasizes creating a positive, character-building sports environment. Let’s dive into how we incorporate these core principles of PCA to support our students’ growth both on and off the mats.

    What is Positive Coaching Alliance?

    Founded in 1998, PCA is dedicated to developing “Better Athletes, Better People.” The organization’s approach focuses on creating a balance between striving for improvement (pursuing success in sport) and emphasizing the character lessons that competition naturally teaches. Through concepts like “Double-Goal Coaching,” PCA encourages coaches to make winning important but, more importantly, to place an equal focus on teaching life lessons and building character. This perspective aligns closely with our philosophy at El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu, where our mission is to empower students through both skill and mindset development.

    Applying PCA in Jiu Jitsu Training

    1. Fostering a Positive Environment

    At El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu, we aim to create an encouraging space where each student feels valued. Our instructors emphasize respect, support, and teamwork over rivalry. Whether students win or lose in a tournament or sparring session, the focus remains on what they learned from the experience. By highlighting growth over results, we teach our students to appreciate both success and setbacks as part of the journey.

    2. Embracing the ‘Mistake Ritual’

    PCA teaches that mistakes are opportunities for growth. This is crucial in jiu jitsu, where trial and error are fundamental to learning new moves and improving technique. For example, if a student gets caught in a submission, instead of feeling discouraged, our instructors encourage them to view it as a learning opportunity. We use the “flush it” technique — a simple physical or mental cue to let go of mistakes and refocus. This practice helps students develop resilience and a positive mindset, building both confidence and adaptability.

    3. Focusing on Effort and Improvement

    Jiu jitsu is as much a mental challenge as a physical one. By celebrating effort and dedication, we encourage our students to focus on long-term growth over instant success. This approach helps to build grit, self-discipline, and a growth mindset — qualities that apply to life beyond the mats. Each month, we discuss these values in our youth mat chats, underscoring the importance of perseverance and respect.

    4. Role of ‘Honoring the Game’

    A core PCA principle is to “Honor the Game,” which aligns with the respect inherent in jiu jitsu. At El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu, we emphasize the importance of respecting teammates, opponents, and instructors alike. Our students bow before entering the mats as a mark of respect for the art and those who practice it. This tradition serves as a constant reminder that jiu jitsu is not just a sport but a way of life, teaching humility, honor, and respect.

    5. Building a Culture of Team Support

    Jiu jitsu can be a very individual pursuit, yet at El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu, we operate as a team. Instructors often pair students of varying skill levels to build a supportive learning environment. Our advanced students become role models, helping beginners with technique, and sharing insights. By encouraging this camaraderie, we foster an atmosphere where everyone feels they belong and contribute to each other’s growth.

    A Lasting Impact On and Off the Mats

    The PCA’s emphasis on life lessons in sports meshes perfectly with the broader mission of El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu. As our students learn to apply the principles of resilience, respect, and positivity on the mats, they naturally carry these values into their personal lives. Many of our adult students have shared that jiu jitsu has improved their patience, problem-solving skills, and overall mental resilience — all values championed by PCA.

    At El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu, we’re more than just a gym; we’re a community committed to building strong, well-rounded individuals. Through PCA’s guidance, we continue to create a safe and supportive environment where students can learn, grow, and thrive, both on and off the mats.

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    Is after 50 Too Old to Start Jiu Jitsu? Absolutely Not!

    At El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu, we often get asked if there’s a class “for older adults,” especially from people in their 50s or beyond who are just starting out. And while we don’t have a specific class labeled for older adults, we have great news: you won’t need one! Out of the 100 or so adults training with us, only 5 are under 30. That means most of our students are in their 30s, 40s, and 50s, training and improving every day.

    Jiu Jitsu is a lifelong art. It’s not about brute strength or being the fastest person in the room—it’s about technique, strategy, and patience. Our students, many of whom began their journey in their 40s and 50s, prove that age is no barrier to learning and enjoying the benefits of Jiu Jitsu. The community you’ll find at our school is supportive and understanding, and your training partners will work with you at a pace that suits your fitness and skill level.

    If you’re worried about being too old to start, consider this: some of our members are in their 60s and thriving on the mats. Jiu Jitsu provides a fantastic way to stay active, build confidence, and develop self-defense skills—all while being part of a community of people with similar goals.

    So, if you’re in your 50’s and wondering if there’s a place for you, the answer is a resounding yes. You’ll fit right in. There’s never a perfect age to start Jiu Jitsu—there’s only the perfect time: now!

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    September Mat Chat: Focusing on Safety at El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu

    At El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu, our monthly mat chats are an opportunity to teach valuable life skills that go beyond the techniques and physical training on the mat. This September, our focus is on safety, a key principle both in and out of the gym.

    Why Safety Matters in Jiu Jitsu

    Safety is the foundation of successful training. When practicing Brazilian Jiu Jitsu (BJJ), we trust our training partners and instructors to create an environment where we can push ourselves without unnecessary risk. This principle applies to every roll, every drill, and every technique. Proper safety habits ensure that we can continue to grow and train, free from injury.

    Key Concepts of Safety in BJJ

    1. Respect for Your Partner
      A core part of safety is having respect for your training partner. We encourage our students, from Peewee to Juniors, to communicate with their partners—whether it’s tapping out when necessary or discussing how to practice a new technique. By understanding each other’s limits, we create an environment of mutual trust.
    2. Controlled Movements
      Learning to control your movements is essential to preventing injuries. This month, we’ll discuss the importance of practicing with precision rather than relying on force. Whether you’re going for a takedown or an armbar, control ensures that you’re not accidentally putting your partner in danger.
    3. Awareness and Listening
      Awareness is a critical aspect of safety. In September’s mat chat, we’ll talk about listening to your body, understanding when to ease off during a drill, and being mindful of your surroundings. We also remind our students to listen to their coaches, whose experience helps guide them in safely navigating their training.

    Safety Beyond the Mat

    The lessons we learn about safety in Jiu Jitsu apply to our daily lives as well. Whether it’s crossing the street, riding a bike, or playing a sport, staying safe requires awareness, communication, and control. We want our students to take these lessons and apply them at home, at school, and in their communities. Our goal is to instill a sense of responsibility for both personal safety and the well-being of those around them.

    As we discuss this important life skill in our youth classes throughout September, we encourage parents to engage in conversations with their children about how they can stay safe in different aspects of life. Through the practice of BJJ and these vital life skills, we are developing strong, aware, and responsible individuals.

    Let’s have a safe and productive month on and off the mat!

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    Starting Martial Arts as a Teenager: Embracing the Journey at El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu

    Starting martial arts as a teenager can be a transformative experience, offering benefits that extend beyond the mat. At El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu, we understand the unique challenges and opportunities that come with beginning this journey during your teenage years.

    1. Building Confidence and Discipline

    For teenagers, martial arts provide a structured environment to develop self-discipline and confidence. Learning techniques, setting goals, and achieving milestones helps build a sense of accomplishment. This newfound confidence often translates into other areas of life, including academics and social interactions.

    2. Improving Physical Fitness

    Martial arts training is an excellent way to enhance physical fitness. Teenagers will experience improvements in strength, flexibility, and cardiovascular health. The diverse range of techniques and drills ensures a full-body workout, which is crucial during the teenage years when the body is still developing.

    3. Learning Valuable Life Skills

    Martial arts instill important life skills such as respect, perseverance, and resilience. Through the challenges faced on the mat, teenagers learn to handle adversity with a positive mindset. These skills are invaluable as they navigate the complexities of adolescence.

    4. Fostering a Sense of Community

    Joining a martial arts class at El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu means becoming part of a supportive and inclusive community. Teenagers can form friendships with peers who share similar interests and values. The camaraderie built in class often extends beyond the dojo, creating lasting bonds.

    5. Exploring Personal Growth

    Martial arts provide a platform for personal growth and self-discovery. Teenagers have the opportunity to explore their strengths and weaknesses, setting and achieving personal goals. The journey through belts and ranks reflects their progress and commitment, fostering a sense of pride and accomplishment.

    6. Preparing for Future Challenges

    The lessons learned in martial arts prepare teenagers for future challenges. The problem-solving skills, focus, and resilience developed through training are assets that will serve them well in various aspects of life, including higher education and career pursuits.

    Starting martial arts as a teenager at El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu is more than just learning self-defense; it’s about embarking on a journey of personal growth and development. Whether you’re looking to improve your fitness, build confidence, or be part of a supportive community, our classes are designed to help you thrive. Join us and discover how martial arts can positively impact your teenage years and beyond.