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Mindset by Carol S. Dweck

I recently finished reading Mindset by Carol S. Dweck. This was one of my favorite books I have ever read. The book was about the differences between a “fixed” mindset and a “growth” mindset and how having a growth mindset can foster a love for learning and set people up for success. The book is split into different categories; Sports, Business, Parenting and Relationships, it gives a lot of examples of each mindset in each chapter and the results of that mindset.

One of my favorite sections of this book was in the parenting chapter. It talks about how difficult it can be to teach children how to have a growth mindset even if you (the parent) are a growth minded person. One of the strategies it talks about is praising children for effort and hard work instead of results. One of the examples was of a family who at dinner always asked each other; What did you learn today? What mistakes did you make that taught an important lesson? What did you try today that was very hard? I thought this was really cool.

At the end of the book it talks a lot about how to start building a growth mindset and passing it on to others. It says that everybody actually has a mix of fixed and growth mindset and that’s just part of being human. The author did an exercise with some of her students where they all had to name their “fixed mindset persona” and write out things that persona says to them and how it makes them feel. I liked that exercise a lot. Even though all of these students were pretty growth minded they often dealt with intrusive fixed mindset thoughts and I could relate to that a lot. 

Danny

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Growth Mindset Pt 1

Growth Mindset Pt 1
I am currently reading a book that a student at EDH BJJ gave to me as a gift. So far, this book has talked about the difference between a growth mindset and a fixed mindset. The book is written by Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D. who after decades of research discovered almost every area of human endeavor can be dramatically influenced by how we think about our talents and abilities.

What I have learned so far is that a fixed mindset is when people think of their qualities as an unchangeable part of who they are. A growth mindset is when people think of these same qualities as things that can be stretched and can improve. The book talks about the differences in behavior caused by these two mindsets for example; somebody with a fixed mindset won’t value effort because if they were smart things would be effortless. A person with a growth mindset values effort because that challenge is what makes them “smart”. The book also gives examples of the types of romantic partners each mindset seeks out. A fixed mindset person would seek out a romantic partner who basically worships them and loves everything about them unconditionally. A growth mindset person seeks out a partner who will challenge them and help them grow.

This book separates qualities by two types; Intellectual and Personal. It talks about being able to have a fixed mindset for one type of quality but a growth mindset for the other. For example; “I can become a better reader if I practice hard but I cannot speak in public because I am too introverted.” This would be an example of having a growth mindset about intellectual qualities but a fixed mindset about personal qualities. I like this book so far and will probably keep writing about it as I read more. 

Coach Danny