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Compete with Yourself — Not With Others: a mindset for on and off the mat by edh jiujitsu

In Jiu Jitsu, it’s easy to fall into the trap of comparison.

You see a teammate get a stripe or belt promotion, and you wonder, Why not me? You roll with someone who feels a little sharper, a little faster, and the thought creeps in… Am I falling behind?

But here’s the truth: comparison is a trap that robs you of progress.

At El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu, we believe the real competition is not with your teammates, your training partners, or your tournament opponents. The real competition is with yourself: the version of you that stepped on the mat yesterday.

Create Personal Metrics

Instead of measuring yourself against others, start using metrics that reflect your own journey:

Did I show up today, even when I didn’t feel like it? Did I apply the technique I learned this week in a live roll? Did I take time to help a lower belt or ask a question when I didn’t understand something? Did I maintain composure when I was tired, frustrated, or being pressured?

These are the kinds of benchmarks that actually drive long-term growth—things you can control, regardless of who you’re training with or what belt they wear.

Progress Is Not Linear

Everyone is working through their own challenges in injuries, work stress, family responsibilities, or even internal doubt. You might not see those factors, but they’re there.

Just because someone improves faster in one area doesn’t mean you’re failing. It just means your path is different. And different is normal in Jiu Jitsu. What matters is that you’re on the path at all.

A Better Way to Compete

Competing with yourself looks like this:

  • Tracking how long you can hold a difficult position before breaking
  • Learning to tap earlier to protect your joints and ego
  • Taking notes after class and drilling with intent
  • Coming back after a tough roll instead of mentally checking out

None of those things require anyone else to fail for you to succeed. That’s a better game to play, and one that’s sustainable, healthy, and rooted in growth.

The Quiet Confidence of Self-Evaluation

When you stop comparing yourself to others, something changes. You become more present. You find more joy in the small wins. You learn to value consistency over outcome.

You’ll also start noticing what really matters: how much you’ve learned, how far you’ve come, and how strong you’ve become; physically, mentally, and emotionally.

So the next time you feel behind, pause.

Don’t ask, Why am I not like them?

Ask, Am I better than I was last month?

Am I showing up with purpose?

At El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu, that’s the mindset we train for—and that’s a win every time.

The Power of a Frame: Small Adjustments, Big Results: El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu Blog

In Jiu Jitsu, the difference between control and chaos often comes down to inches. One of the best examples of this is the concept of a frame. A frame is a structure you create with your body—usually with your arms or legs—to manage space and absorb pressure. It’s a simple idea, but when used correctly, it can transform your ability to stay safe, maintain posture, or create openings to attack and escape.

Let’s take a look at a common example: someone caught inside closed guard.

If you’re inside your partner’s closed guard and you place your hands on their torso or hips, your arms and core work together to form a frame. That frame acts like a shock absorber. When the person on bottom tries to pull you in, your structure resists. You maintain posture, you stay balanced, and you’re in a better position to open the guard or initiate your own offense.

But now let’s say you move those same hands a few inches sideways and place them on the mat. Technically, you’re still using your arms but now, they’re no longer helping your posture. Instead of being part of a strong frame, they’re disconnected from the force pulling you forward. When your opponent pulls you in, your frames are working but not in the correct location. The guard player is able to use their hips and body freely and you end up giving them the advantage. You’ve gone from structured resistance to becoming part of their momentum.

What changed? Just a few inches.

This is the beauty and challenge of Jiu Jitsu. Precision matters. A good frame isn’t just about putting something somewhere near the right spot. It’s about understanding how structure works, how pressure moves, and how small changes lead to big differences.

At El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu, we help our students learn to recognize these subtle adjustments. Whether you’re a beginner learning how to survive closed guard, or a seasoned grappler sharpening your pressure and movement, developing an awareness of your frames is key. It’s not just about strength it’s about structure, timing, and placement.

Next time you roll, pay close attention to your frames. Are they really supporting your posture? Are they positioned with purpose? Often, the smallest shift can lead to the biggest result.

See you on the mat.

El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu

Precision. Structure. Growth.

Reflecting on my jiujitsu journey by Frank

*2010 IBJJF Adult No-Gi World Champion Blue Belt

*2019 US Open No-Gi Champion Purple Belt (weight class/absolute)

*2019 US Open Gi Champion Purple Belt (weight class/absolute)

*2019 IBJJF Masters Gi World Champion Purple Belt

*2023 IBJJF Sacramento Open Gi Champion Brown Belt

*2023 IBJJF Sacramento Open No-Gi Champion Brown Belt

First of all, I want to express my deepest gratitude to Professor Eliot and every member of El Dorado Hills Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu.  I could not ask for a more supportive group of people to train, learn, and grow alongside.  This moment is the result of 15 years of hard work, struggle, and improvement—not just on the mat, but in every part of my life. Writing here today, thinking about accepting my black belt in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, I can’t help but reflect on how far I’ve come and how much this journey has shaped me.

I first got into grappling when I joined my high school wrestling team at 14 years old. Growing up in an impoverished, dysfunctional family, with parents who struggled with drugs and alcohol, it often felt like getting their attention or admiration was impossible. I grew up feeling looked down upon.  I was undersized and bullied often.  But wrestling was the first thing I found that made me proud of myself. It gave me something to focus on, something to fight for. I worked incredibly hard, sometimes too hard. I felt like I needed to get good quickly—to earn a scholarship, to leave my family’s lifestyle behind, and to build a future that was different than the one I’d grown up in.

Through my training in wrestling, I was able to do just that.  I placed 3rd in the state of California in High School, and I was able to earn a scholarship to wrestle at the NCAA Division 1 level at UC Davis.  But it wasn’t just about winning matches or earning accolades—it was about proving to myself that I was capable of overcoming my circumstances. That mindset of hard work, persistence, and pushing through adversity carried me through the toughest times in my life.  Wrestling blessed me with so many great mentors and taught me so many extremely valuable life lessons and skills.

After finishing my college career with a body that had taken a lot of abuse, I turned to Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu as a way to continue grappling, but with less strain on my body. And I loved it right away. In my very first tournament, I won a IBJJF World Championship at blue belt in the adult division.  A testament to how great of a coach Eliot is.  The power of the mind is incredible.  I was very nervous about skipping white belt competition completely and competing at the highest level at blue belt in my first competition, but Eliot just kept re-stating that I was more than capable of winning the tournament.  I started to believe him and just went out there and competed with a level of confidence I never had before.  I then went on to train for the IBJJF Gi World Championships but at the US Open I injured my MCL and meniscus.  I received my purple belt just after this injury.  After surgery on that knee, they discovered I also had a torn ACL from my time wrestling in college.  I was forced to take a full year off from all athletics to recover from 2 knee surgeries that year.  

After my time rehabilitating , my body felt better than it had all through college.  I was able to lift and train at a level I hadn’t in many years.  With renewed hope my focus shifted from BJJ back to wrestling.  Although I had a very successful college career, it did not end the way I wanted it too.  And after graduating college, I did not have the financial support to continue to pursue Olympic level wrestling, so instead I entered the work force.  I became a teacher and a wrestling coach.  It was perfect for me, and I enjoyed being able to give back to the next generation of students and athletes.  But with each passing year the hunger to compete again grew.  I felt like I had a lot still to prove.   I began to compete in the age-level national championships initially as a way to challenge myself after recovering from my ACL surgery.  It went great.  I won my first national championship.  Then proceeded to win it for the next 3 years.  My training in BJJ was very limited over these 4 years as I focused on teaching and improving in wrestling.  Then here comes coach Eliot again.  Getting in my ear, building up the idea that I could be an Olympian after 10 plus years away from the sport.  He made me determined to make the 2016 US National Team and qualify for the Olympics. At 34 years old, I was no spring chicken, but I was determined to prove I could be competitive at the highest levels of the sport.  My training in BJJ was non-existent at this time and Eliot still stayed late in the evening after his BJJ classes to train with me in Freestyle wrestling and continue to offer training guidance he didn’t have to provide.  

Although I fell short of making the team, I proved to myself that I could compete at the highest levels of the sport. I may not have reached the Olympics, but the experience taught me the value of perseverance. However, my body was starting to give out. A nagging back injury made even walking difficult, and I realized it was time to step away from the competitive side of wrestling and focus on rehabilitating my body again.  My daughter was born at this time and my duties as a father shifted my focus to my family and recovery.  

Although it took a great deal of time, I once again felt like I could make a return to grappling and begin training in BJJ.  When I returned as a purple belt, I found great success once again, winning 4 gold medals at the US Open and following that up with gold at the IBJJF World Championship in the Masters Division at purple belt.  Shortly after, I was promoted to brown belt, and I was eager to continue my growth in the sport. But then, the pandemic hit. For a time, there was no training, no contact, and no competitions. My focus shifted to my family—my son was born during this time, and my kids became my primary focus. But I didn’t give up on my journey. Even though my mat time was limited, I studied more technique videos than ever, refining my game and developing a deeper understanding of Jiu-Jitsu.

Along the way, I dealt with more injuries—a bicep rupture surgery and a bad concussion slowed my training. But I kept going, and eventually, I returned to competition winning double gold at the Sacramento Open at Brown Belt.

Reflecting on my journey, one of the greatest lessons I’ve learned is that, due to my upbringing, I always felt I had to rush to get good. I was driven by a sense of urgency—if I didn’t make it quickly, I feared I’d miss my chance. That mindset worked for a time, and it helped me to get to a high level, but it also came at a cost. My body paid the price for that intensity. But Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu has taught me a better approach. It has shown me that “consistency beats intensity.” I’ve learned to train with a longer-term view, to pace myself and focus on sustainable growth. As a result, my body stays healthier, I miss less training, and I am able to continue learning and improving.

This black belt is not just a reflection of my abilities, but a reflection of my journey—the struggles, the injuries, the setbacks, and, most importantly, the lessons learned along the way. I have come to understand that Jiu-Jitsu is not just a sport; it’s a way of life. It’s a journey of continuous improvement, a journey that doesn’t end at black belt but continues for the rest of my life.

I want to take this opportunity to express my deepest gratitude to everyone who has been part of my journey. To my coaches, thank you for your unwavering belief in me, for your guidance, and for pushing me when I needed it most. To my training partners, you’ve been my teachers, my challengers, and my motivators. Every roll has been a lesson in perseverance, and I am thankful for each one. To my family, especially my wife and children, thank you for your support and understanding, for your patience during the times when I wasn’t able to be fully present because of training.  And thank you most for the unconditional love you give me.

And to my friends, my teammates, and the BJJ community at large, thank you for the camaraderie and for inspiring me to be better every day. We are all in this together, and that spirit of community is what has kept me going through the toughest times.

As I approach the day of accepting this black belt, I know that my journey in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu is far from over. This is not the end—it’s the beginning of a new chapter. There is always more to learn, more to teach, and more to share. I look forward to continuing this journey, to passing on the knowledge I’ve gained, and to helping others grow as I’ve grown.

Thank you all, from the bottom of my heart, for being part of this incredible journey. It has helped me to improve as a father, a husband, a teacher, and a coach.  I am honored, humbled, and grateful to be in the place I am here today.

Thank you.

The Power of Visualization in BJJ

BJJ isn’t just about strength or speed—it’s about strategy, problem-solving, and muscle memory. One of the best ways to improve, even when you’re off the mats, is visualization.

What is Visualization?


It’s mentally rehearsing techniques, movements, and scenarios without physically doing them. This builds neural pathways in your brain, making it easier to execute moves in real time.

Benefits of Visualization for BJJ

Enhances Muscle Memory – Mentally drilling moves helps reinforce them, making them feel natural when you roll.

Improves Reaction Time – Visualizing different scenarios helps you react faster in live sparring.

Reduces Anxiety & Boosts Confidence – Seeing yourself succeed in your mind makes you more prepared and confident on the mat.

Maximizes Training Off the Mats – If you’re injured or can’t train, visualization keeps your game sharp.

How to Use Visualization

Pick a technique (e.g., armbar from guard).
Close your eyes & picture each step in detail.
Feel the movement—grips, weight shifts, control.
Repeat regularly—just like physical drilling.

BJJ is just as much mental as it is physical. Spend a few minutes visualizing daily, and watch your game improve!

El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu Shines at BJJ Tour Bay Area

On March 16, our El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu team made a strong statement at the BJJ Tour Bay Area event, bringing home multiple medals in both youth and adult divisions. Our competitors showcased their hard work, discipline, and technical skill, proving once again that EDH Jiu Jitsu is a force to be reckoned with on the competition scene.

Youth Competitors Dominate the Mats

Our young athletes put on an incredible performance, bringing home a total of four gold medals and four silver medals.

🥇 Gold Medalists:

• Hazel

• Brett

• Geoffrey

• Urijah

🥈 Silver Medalists:

• Claire

• Koa

• Eli

• Aiden

Each of these young competitors displayed resilience, sharp technique, and outstanding sportsmanship throughout their matches. Their commitment to training at El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu was evident in their performances, and we couldn’t be prouder of their achievements.

Adult Division Success: Purple Belt Podium Finishes

Our adult competitors also had a stellar day on the mats in the highly competitive purple belt division.

🥇 Sean took home the gold medal, proving his dominance in the division with technical precision and strategic control.

🥈 Danny earned a silver medal, displaying resilience and high-level grappling against tough competition.

These results reflect the dedication and hard work that both Sean and Danny put into their training at EDH Jiu Jitsu. The purple belt division is known for its intensity, and securing podium finishes is a huge accomplishment.

The Road Ahead

This event was just another step in our journey. With upcoming tournaments on the horizon, our competitors will continue to sharpen their skills and test themselves on the mat. Whether you’re a seasoned competitor or just beginning your Brazilian Jiu Jitsu journey, there’s no better time to train at El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu.

Join Us on the Mats

If you’re looking to take your training to the next level or want to get started in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu in El Dorado Hills, we invite you to join us for a class. Our experienced instructors, supportive team environment, and structured training approach will help you reach your goals—whether that’s competition, self-defense, or personal growth.

See you on the mats!

The Hidden Lessons of Peer-to-Peer Coaching in Jiu Jitsu

At El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu, we understand that competitive success is important. Parents want their kids to excel, gain confidence, and perform well in competition. But some of the most valuable lessons in Jiu Jitsu—the ones that help kids grow into strong, capable adults—happen in ways that don’t always look like traditional learning. Moments of peer-to-peer coaching, collaboration, and mentorship build critical life skills that go beyond winning medals.

Learning to Teach, Learning to Learn

Example: Your child is paired with a newer student who is struggling with a technique. Instead of rushing ahead, they slow down, explain the movement, and offer guidance.

Why It Matters: Teaching reinforces understanding. If a child can explain a technique to someone else, it means they truly understand it themselves. More importantly, they learn patience, leadership, and communication—skills that are just as valuable in school, sports, and eventually, their careers.

Building a Better Community Through Collaboration

Example: Your child and their training partner can’t quite get a new move to work. Instead of getting frustrated, they start problem-solving—adjusting grips, angles, and timing until they figure it out together.

Why It Matters: This teaches adaptability and teamwork. In competition, athletes often face unpredictable situations, and the ability to think critically under pressure is what separates good competitors from great ones. The habit of working through challenges with others helps build resilience and a growth mindset.

However, collaboration doesn’t mean tolerating bad behavior. If a training partner is being overly aggressive or unsafe, it’s important that your child knows when to speak up. Teaching kids to advocate for themselves and communicate concerns to a coach is an essential part of leadership and self-respect.

Mentorship and Accountability

Example: Your child loses a tough round in training. Instead of sulking, they watch a more experienced teammate offer advice to a struggling white belt. Inspired, they shift their mindset and start helping others as well.

Why It Matters: Jiu Jitsu is a long journey. Success isn’t just about physical skill; it’s about attitude, mindset, and perseverance. By mentoring others, kids learn accountability—not just for their own progress, but for the well-being of their teammates. That sense of responsibility creates better competitors and, more importantly, better people.

At EDH Jiu Jitsu, we train champions—not just in competition, but in life. The ability to teach, collaborate, and mentor is just as crucial as technical skill. While medals and trophies are exciting, the long-term benefits of learning how to lead, adapt, and support others are what truly set athletes apart.

Challenge Yourself: The Victory of Showing Up in Martial Arts

Martial arts is more than just learning techniques—it’s about growth, discipline, and perseverance. At El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu, we believe that success isn’t just measured by wins and losses but by the courage to challenge yourself and the commitment to self-improvement.

The Courage to Start

Every martial artist, no matter how experienced, was once a beginner. Whether you’re stepping onto the mat for the first time or learning a new skill that pushes you outside your comfort zone, the real challenge is simply starting. Growth happens when you embrace that discomfort and push forward, knowing that every small step leads to progress.

Winning by Showing Up

Some days, training feels great—you execute techniques smoothly, control your breathing, and feel confident. Other days, it’s a struggle just to get to class. But at El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu, we see every class attended as a victory. The real win in martial arts isn’t about dominating your training partners; it’s about consistently showing up and improving yourself, even when it’s tough.

Embracing the Process

Improvement in martial arts doesn’t happen overnight. It’s built through small moments of growth:

  • Learning to remain calm under pressure
  • Developing confidence in difficult positions
  • Understanding a new concept, even if execution takes time

These incremental gains add up, shaping you into a stronger, more skilled, and more resilient martial artist.

The Ultimate Goal: Personal Growth

At El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu, we emphasize that Jiu Jitsu is a journey, not a race. It’s easy to get caught up in competition results or comparing yourself to others, but real success comes from continuous learning and self-improvement. When you focus on personal growth rather than external validation, you’ll find deeper fulfillment in your training.

So, the next time you feel unmotivated or frustrated, remember this: just by stepping onto the mat, you’re winning. Every class, every rep, and every challenge you embrace brings you one step closer to becoming the best version of yourself.

Keep training, stay committed, and enjoy the journey. See you on the mats at El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu!

The Way of Tea and Martial Arts Part 3: Purity (Sei) and Tranquility (Jaku) – The Warrior’s Inner Peace

The Way of Tea (Chadō) is more than just preparing and drinking tea—it is a philosophy deeply rooted in discipline, mindfulness, and respect. The same values that guide the Japanese tea ceremony also serve as pillars of martial arts training. At El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu, we believe that the principles of Chadō—harmony (wa), respect (kei), purity (sei), and tranquility (jaku)—align perfectly with the mindset needed to excel in Jiu Jitsu.

In part three of this three-part series, we’ll explore how the wisdom of the tea ceremony applies to martial arts, helping practitioners refine their skills both on and off the mat.

In Chadō, purity (sei) and tranquility (jaku) represent a clear mind and a peaceful spirit. The tea master ensures that every tool is clean and every movement is intentional. Similarly, in Jiu Jitsu, mental clarity and inner calm are crucial to success.

1. Purity: A Clear Mind in Training

Distractions and emotions can cloud judgment in sparring. A pure mindset—one free from anger, frustration, or ego—allows for better technique and decision-making.

How to Cultivate a Clear Mind:

  • Approach each training session with curiosity, not frustration.
  • Let go of past mistakes and focus on the present moment.
  • Train consistently to develop instinctive movement.

2. Tranquility: Staying Calm Under Pressure

Whether in competition or real-life challenges, staying composed is a mark of a true martial artist. In Jiu Jitsu, panic leads to exhaustion, while relaxation allows for fluid movement and quick thinking.

Tips for Maintaining Tranquility:

  • Control your breathing during intense moments.
  • Accept that mistakes are part of learning.
  • Trust your training and react with confidence.

At El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu, we believe martial arts are more than physical techniques—they are a path to mental clarity, discipline, and peace. Join us and experience the deeper side of Jiu Jitsu.

The Way of Tea and Martial Arts Part 2: Respect (Kei) – The Foundation of a Strong Martial Arts Community

The Way of Tea (Chadō) is more than just preparing and drinking tea—it is a philosophy deeply rooted in discipline, mindfulness, and respect. The same values that guide the Japanese tea ceremony also serve as pillars of martial arts training. At El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu, we believe that the principles of Chadō—harmony (wa), respect (kei), purity (sei), and tranquility (jaku)—align perfectly with the mindset needed to excel in Jiu Jitsu.

In part two this three-part series, we’ll explore how the wisdom of the tea ceremony applies to martial arts, helping practitioners refine their skills both on and off the mat.

In the Way of Tea (Chadō), respect (kei) is a fundamental principle. Every action in the tea ceremony is performed with deep consideration—not just for the tea itself, but for the guests, the tools, and the tradition. This same level of respect is essential in Jiu Jitsu, shaping the culture of the dojo and the relationships between students and instructors.

At El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu, respect is more than just a courtesy—it’s the foundation of growth, trust, and community.

1. Respect for Instructors and the Art of Jiu Jitsu

Martial arts have been passed down for generations, refined by masters who dedicated their lives to understanding combat and self-discipline. Just as a tea master honors the centuries-old tradition of Chadō, Jiu Jitsu practitioners should recognize the lineage of their art.

Traditional ways of showing Respect in Training:

  • Bowing or greeting your coach and training partner upon entering the training space.
  • Listening attentively to instructors and applying feedback.
  • Understanding that learning Jiu Jitsu is a collaborative process between you, your coach, and your partner.

2. Respect for Training Partners

Every training partner is essential to your improvement. Without them, you wouldn’t have anyone to test techniques, develop timing, or sharpen your skills. Training should be a collaborative process, not a battle of egos.

Ways to Show Respect to Training Partners:

  • Control your intensity – Rolling too hard or recklessly increases the risk of injury.
  • Communicate – If you’re injured or uncomfortable, let your partner know.
  • Express gratitude – A simple “thank you” after each round builds a culture of respect.

3. Respect for Yourself

Self-respect means taking care of your body, setting goals, and maintaining discipline in training. It also means understanding your limits and knowing when to rest. A tea master treats every movement with care—likewise, a martial artist should approach training with mindfulness and purpose.

Respect in Everyday Life

The lessons of kei apply to how we interact with others outside the dojo. Whether it’s showing appreciation for family, respecting coworkers, or maintaining humility in success, martial arts teach a level of mindfulness that extends far beyond the mat.

At El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu, we cultivate respect not just as a martial arts principle, but as a way of life.http://edhjiujitsu.com

The Way of Tea and Martial Arts Part 1: Harmony (Wa) – Flowing with the Energy of Jiu Jitsu

The Way of Tea (Chadō) is more than just preparing and drinking tea—it is a philosophy deeply rooted in discipline, mindfulness, and respect. The same values that guide the Japanese tea ceremony also serve as pillars of martial arts training. At El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu, we believe that the principles of Chadō—harmony (wa), respect (kei), purity (sei), and tranquility (jaku)—align perfectly with the mindset needed to excel in Jiu Jitsu.

In part one of the following three-part series, we’ll explore how the wisdom of the tea ceremony applies to martial arts, helping practitioners refine their skills both on and off the mat.

In the Japanese tea ceremony (Chadō), harmony (wa) is one of the four guiding principles. It represents balance and unity—between the host and guest, between movement and stillness, and between the individual and the surrounding environment. Every action in the tea ceremony is carefully considered, flowing seamlessly into the next. This same sense of balance and flow is at the heart of Jiu Jitsu.

At El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu, we teach that success on the mat doesn’t come from brute force but from adaptability, connection, and smooth transitions. Let’s explore how the principle of harmony applies to your martial arts journey.

1. Adapting Instead of Resisting

One of the first lessons in Jiu Jitsu is that forceful resistance is rarely the best approach. When an opponent applies pressure, fighting directly against it often leads to fatigue or getting swept. Instead, practitioners learn to the movement—redirecting energy, adjusting angles, and finding the path of least resistance.

This principle mirrors the tea ceremony’s emphasis on natural, effortless movement. A tea master doesn’t rush or force actions; they move with intention and grace. Similarly, in Jiu Jitsu, techniques become most effective when executed with timing and precision rather than sheer strength.

Examples in Training:

Instead of forcing a guard pass, use your opponent’s reactions to set up the next movement.

  • If someone applies pressure in side control, don’t push directly—find an angle to create space and escape.
  • When defending against a takedown, redirect the force rather than trying to overpower your opponent.

2. Building a Connection with Training Partners

In Chadō, the host and guests work in harmony to create an atmosphere of respect and mutual appreciation. Similarly, Jiu Jitsu training thrives when both partners cooperate, challenge each other, and grow together.

At El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu, we emphasize that training is not about “winning” in practice. Instead, it’s about creating a learning environment where both partners benefit. When students train with awareness, adjusting their intensity based on their partner’s skill level and goals, everyone improves more efficiently.

How to Cultivate Harmony in Training:

  • Match your intensity – Don’t overpower a beginner just because you can. Meet them at a level where they can learn and improve.
  • Give and take – Sometimes, allow your partner to work their techniques so they can develop confidence. Other times, challenge them to push their limits.
  • Respect different styles – Some training partners play an aggressive game, while others are more defensive. Learning to work with different styles improves your adaptability.

3. The Flow of Movement and Breath

Just as a tea master moves with precision and economy of motion, a skilled Jiu Jitsu practitioner develops smooth, efficient techniques. This concept is sometimes referred to as “flow state” in martial arts—a condition where movements feel effortless and transitions happen naturally.

Breathing is a key element of this flow. In Jiu Jitsu, beginners often hold their breath when exerting effort, leading to fatigue and tension. In contrast, experienced practitioners breathe rhythmically, keeping their movements relaxed and efficient.

Tips for Better Flow in Jiu Jitsu:

  • Stay relaxed – Tension slows you down and makes your movements rigid. Keep a loose, adaptable posture.
  • Breathe with intention – Use slow, controlled breaths to maintain endurance and composure.
  • Anticipate transitions – Rather than reacting at the last second, stay ahead of your opponent’s movement by sensing where the fight is going next.

Applying Harmony Beyond the Mat

The principle of wa extends beyond Jiu Jitsu into daily life. Whether dealing with workplace challenges, personal relationships, or unexpected difficulties, maintaining a sense of balance allows you to handle situations with composure.

At El Dorado Hills Jiu Jitsu, we don’t just teach martial arts—we teach a mindset that enhances every aspect of life. Join us on the mat and experience the power of harmony in Jiu Jitsu and beyond.